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Post by sanzenken on Jul 6, 2010 9:24:23 GMT -8
Good times...
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Post by Adam on Jul 6, 2010 13:18:50 GMT -8
Wow, this is way more posts than I anticipate! Thank you everyone for your praise, and I'm glad you had fun! I can't wait for next year, it's going to be totally sweet. I wonder if they will have to give me a bigger room...
So hey, this is a great place to continue the discussion, is there any nerd courting stuff that people would like me to talk more about right here?
~Adam
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Post by Alec on Jul 6, 2010 13:55:56 GMT -8
Hi guys! Amanda here from the panel (the girl not being helpful with the mic). I had a lot of fun and I hoped that the few things I did say were helpful/funny. I don't have the degree of obsession Adam has over talking, but I had fun and got over some shyness.
Hope to see more of you guys in the future!
((And that FB idea sounds intriguing. *goes to poke Adam*))
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Post by wendybird on Jul 6, 2010 15:56:02 GMT -8
The panel at AX was unbelievably awesome!
Probably the best 3 hours I spent the whole weekend. It was worth the price of the ticket in and of itself.
I was the girl in the massive blue and black ballgown with the butt-length silver hair, btw. I took up 3 seats! ^_^
I wish I could have stayed late with you guys, but...I couldn't use the bathroom outside my hotel room without taking off my whole costume. >.<
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Post by bakeuntilash on Jul 6, 2010 16:33:55 GMT -8
this is the third time i have seen Nerd courting. the first time it was at Fanime and under a different title. "Nerd Courting" is structured the same but it does nothing to dull the experience. the Q & A form the audience is always hysterical and interesting and am never surprised, no matter how many times people are told "keep your questions under 20 seconds" the questions turn in to "hypothetical" situations and then plunge into a full blown story. Adam is friendly and interesting to talk to. he is kind and extremely helpful. then next day in an heavily crowded artiest gallery he took the time to get my attention and exchange passing pleasantries. thank you. J was hilarious. didnt talk to much, but still very funny. ann made me tired just by watching her climb up and down the stage running the mic to people in the audience. guy in hat (forgot your name....) didn't say anything but was very talkative in the hallway after wards. yaoi girl (forgot your name too! damn it!) you silenced the whole room with your coments on dating crazy women. it was subtle but it was there. very well done! everything. i planed my day around your panel when i saw it on the schedule. the worst part was the guy i sat next to. a smelly fat kid who LOVED to hear himself talk and had dumb-ass comments about everything you had to say. this is getting too long.... i took your advice and used my own common scene and unique tactics to much success! it is possible that when i met Adam in the artist hall with an actual girl. a very pretty on, in fact, i saw astonishment flash across your face. im stopping here because no one has this much of an attention span to read through all my thoughts. keep up the good work. it is helping people. Attachments:
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Post by kikiroll on Jul 6, 2010 19:25:20 GMT -8
@ Page:
CAAAAKE! I made the picture at www.puricute.com <3
Alec: What? You were totally working it with that mic! And I don't think anyone has the degree of obsession over talking Adam has. xD
wendybird: I remember you! Your dress was beautiful! I took pictures :3
bakeuntilash: Hey I read it all o.o congrats on the girl!
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Post by Alec on Jul 6, 2010 19:40:40 GMT -8
@wendy: Was that silver wig all curly or wavy? I think I remember that! Ann and I commented on what a nice wig it was to each other as we saw you come in. <3
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Post by page806 on Jul 6, 2010 19:52:53 GMT -8
@kiki that's my hand holding the cake!! i <3 cake!! wendybird I saw your dress! it was so amazing. The whole day i kept saying i was gonna take a picture but you were always so far! Luckily, i finally got one at Nerd Courting. Yay!! @ adam yeah, you never really answered that question to that guy who said he lost his "spiritual partner". You just said you would go into it later....but you never did, cause time was running out.
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Post by Ann on Jul 6, 2010 20:02:14 GMT -8
I remember that costume!! It was so pretty! Sorry I made you tired with all the running around ^_^;; It was pretty fun for me actually, but I was also full of energy drink and promptly passed out when it wore off a few hours later while we were all still hanging out chatting. Apologies to the folks who were attempting to converse with me when I powered down suddenly . How did you all feel about the way we did Q&A? I know I wasn't able to get to everyone in time, but did you like having the mic brought out to the audience? Do you have any suggestions for next time?
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Post by bakeuntilash on Jul 6, 2010 20:43:44 GMT -8
"@ adam yeah, you never really answered that question to that guy who said he lost his "spiritual partner". You just said you would go into it later....but you never did, cause time was running out." this guy had nothing worth answering. he needs to get a pet monkey and tell it all his problems while picking lice from its back! people love, people loss, people should be happy it happened. "spiritually connected" implies two are as one. he described a yearning for someone who doesn't share his feelings. (this is why i am not a speaker at a panel ;D )
your Q&A is fine. there would be more time to answer questions if the speaker would just get to the question. Adam tried to lay out the guidelines but no one listened. its unavoidable. you are doing great.
also, looking forward to seeing your comic. your artist is fantastic!
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Post by Adam on Jul 6, 2010 20:55:35 GMT -8
Hey, I never said how much later it would be. That clock has no timer on it!
So in regards to the question: "What do I do if I lose my soul mate?" I propose the following:
I do believe that there is such a thing as a soul mate, a partner that is so perfect for you that when you are with them, everything feels, well, perfect! Where I differ from common opinion is that I don't believe that you only have one soul mate, or that if you miss them or lose them you are screwed. That doesn't make any sense to me. Throughout your life, you will fall in love over and over again, and each time it will feel different, but still incredible.
I do appreciate the pain, and the feeling of hopelessness, I have been there myself. I know that it feels like you will never be whole again, but take heart! It's truly an amazing thing, when you finally do meet someone new who can engage you so well and bring back all the joy and happiness. You will never be able to perfectly replace what you have lost, and you shouldn't want to. You should approach each new love as special and unique, and never compare it to loves of the past!
So until you find your new soul mate, my best advice would be to work on improving yourself. Not so that you will have an easier time attracting a new mate, but rather so that when you do, you will be the totally awesome person that they deserve!
~Adam...!
PS: @ bakeuntilash: I was not surprised that you had a girl, I was just surprised to see you! I only ran into 3 or 4 people that were at the panel over the entire rest of the convention, which is a very different feel from fanime, where you see people you meet from a panel over and over again. Good for you!!
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Post by wendybird on Jul 6, 2010 21:20:26 GMT -8
Thanks for all the lovely compliments everyone! The dress was mega-heavy and cost me a lot of sleep, but it was totally worth it! And the wig was mostly just curly at the ends. Anyway, back on topic, I had a question I was a bit too shy to ask at the panel. How do you truly break up with someone when you both still love each other? I know Adam touched on the subject of distance when you and your ex run in the same group of friends, but it's a lot easier said than done. I'd been with my boyfriend for three years, and we broke up about 2 months ago, as more a preemptive strike before we hated each other. And we're still great friends. It would all be fine and dandy if we didn't still make out from time to time. It's bad, and it stops us from moving on, but I'm not sure how to stop it from happening.
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Post by jessejames on Jul 6, 2010 21:48:16 GMT -8
wendybirdI suggest taking a break from each other and hang out with your other friends. If you keep up with the physical piece it will only lead right back to the relationship. A break from each other can sometimes be a good thing so you can have an opportunity to "explore" other options.
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Post by Arie on Jul 7, 2010 1:37:51 GMT -8
wendybirdI gotta throw my 2 cents in with JesseJames. Keep in mind this is what I delt with, so your mileage may vary. I went through a breakup with someone I was with for 5 years. Everyone gave me the same advice; get some time and distance. But what do they know right? I wanted to stay friends and thought I could power though it and keep a friendship going. All it did was making it harder to let go (her dating a guy physically hurt) and eventually led to a fair amount of resentment. Being able to be friends after a relationship is a fantastic idea when possible. But you have to give yourself the time and space to get a perspective on where your relationship actually is so you can move on.
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Post by Arie on Jul 7, 2010 1:40:11 GMT -8
So I thought I’d throw out a question out that was bouncing around my head during the panel.
What do you do when you’re an older “nerd”?
If you look at the majority of the people attending the panel, let alone the con, they could likely be thrown in to the 18-25yr old demographic. Likely they’re still in college, with even the possibility of anime, game etc clubs at their disposal. So what happens when you hit the dreaded 30’s? No one wants to be that creepy old guy. But it seems like people hit their late 20’s in to their 30’s and suddenly lose the desire and time for all of this.
As I said in the post above, I was in a very long term relationship. Getting out of it messed with my head to such a degree that it’s taken me nearly 3 years, and a number of false starts, to get back to a point where I feel I can start up a healthy relationship. This means it’s been nearly 8 years since I’ve been in the dating scene. So how does a guy, outside the normal age range, find himself a nerd girl?
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