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Post by azsinclair on Jul 20, 2010 0:55:32 GMT -8
Hey, I'm wondering out of curiosity, how would i be able to tell if a nerd girl is into me or not. Being a nerd myself *(and proud of it btw) I tend to be a bit oblivious about these things and end up finding out when it's too late. ^_^' I don't exactly know if there are even any sort of "signs", but just in case, it would really help.
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Post by Adam on Jul 21, 2010 23:31:18 GMT -8
There are many ways to tell if a girl is into you! The first one to look for is eye contact. Make eye contact with her for just a little longer than you feel comfortable. If she gives you a "weirded out" kind of look and looks away, then she is probably not into you.
If she holds for a while, and then looks away while blushing, thats a much better sign! If she just holds your gaze and smiles until you start to blush, then thats about as good a sign as there is. Just be sure that you smile naturally while making eye contact with her, so that you don't come across as threatening. In fact, you would probably do well to practice making eyes at yourself in the mirror to find a look that is natural.
Lets say you are both at a gathering of friends. Does she go out of her way to sit next to you when there are other seats available? Does she tuck her hair behind her ear thats facing you when you are speaking? Does she laugh at a joke you made that isn't very funny? Does she suggest a team based game and then try to be your partner? And here is a big one, does she touch your hand or arm when she laughs?
Any one of these things by themselves is not a good indicator, but if you start noticing a few of these things happening together, then it's a good sign.
Now beware, she may just be a flirty person. At least that's what nerds constantly tell ourselves to explain away flirtatious behavior. An easy way to be sure though to to just watch her for a few minutes. Does she act as flirty (or more so) with other guys in the group as she does with you? Then you might have reason to think she is just a flirt. If not, then there is one last sure fire way to find out if she is flirting or not.
Ask her out! And be direct with your language choice. "Would you like to go to a movie with me?" can be a date or just a friends thing, and if the girl you are talking to is a nerd, then she will default to assuming it's a friend thing, even if she really likes you. Say instead something like "I would like to take you out to dinner and a movie. What do ya say?" You can and should further clarify if she says yes, especially if she is a nerd girl. Say something like "Alright, it's a date! How does Saturday sound?"
Now that you have established that it is a date, it takes alot of the confusion out of the air, as well as giving her the opportunity to clarify as well. She may say something like "I would like to go just as friends though if thats ok" or, best case scenario, she will say ok, and then smile and giggle, and walk away. It's that giggle that you want to shoot for; you will know it because it will make your heart race and your pants tight. It's a sound that girls make involuntarily, and when a girl makes that sound to you, it's one of the greatest feelings in the world.
~Adam
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Post by wendybird on Jul 22, 2010 13:41:44 GMT -8
So, what about the same question, but for girls? How does a nerd girl tell if a guy is into her?
I've had a fair share of suitors, but I usually have to find out from other people, because I'm incredibly dense and their advances usually fly right over my head....
Also, what if you just don't know how to flirt, or just aren't forward or outgoing enough to do any of the aforementioned actions to indicate that you're interested?
One more thing, I guess it might just apply to me, but I have a really horrible sense of humor, and bad puns are like crack to me, so I genuinely think awful pickup lines and bad jokes are funny, and I'm not sure how to give the vibe that I might not be interested that way, but I just thought the joke was funny. Does it make sense?
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Post by azsinclair on Jul 24, 2010 13:43:27 GMT -8
you know, now that i think about it, I never realized the amount of signs that come into play when trying to letting someone know when you're interested. ;D I wonder if it can help me find the right girl hahaha...
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Post by Adam on Aug 2, 2010 23:19:46 GMT -8
When trying to tell if a guy is into you, there are a few big signs to look for.
Look for where he sits. Just like with girls, an interested guy will go out of his way to sit next to you. He wants to be in physical contact with you, even if it's just a shoulder. Also, just like with girls, at a gathering of friends, does he suggest a game and then try to get on your team?
Guys will do what is called "Blocking Behavior." This is when you are at a social gathering and he is standing or sitting near you, and is positioning himself in such a way as to prevent other men from interacting with you. This is something he will do subconsciously, so watch for it!
Other things to watch for include bragging and oneupmanship, and him trying to show that he can take care of and protect you.
These are just a few, there are many more! Try going to a party and just sit in a corner and watch how guys are flirting with other girls. Seeing it in action without being the person involved will help alot!
-Adam
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